A wife, a husband, a daughter, a son." You may know yourself superficially. If you're not centered and balanced, how can you assist others? In the morning, before you go out in the world, take some time to be with yourself, to contemplate your day and what you want to accomplish.
"Oh," you may say, "I'm a lawyer or an account executive or an executive. I'm suggesting you take a fine-tooth comb and look at your actions, one at a time. You can't really help others if you can't help yourself.
So many of us ignore ourselves, take ourselves for granted, function on automatic pilot or at the whims and desires of others without knowing exactly what want until something happens we definitely don't want.
The good news is that negativity can point or push you in the right direction. You can get so sick and tired of being sick and tired that you change. We create, promote or allow everything in our lives. Are you doing what you do because of conditioning, because of "shoulds" "ought tos"? You have to know where you are to go somewhere else. Your relationship with yourself is ultimately reflected in your relationships with others.
Rather, they are frameworks of validation of one type of human experience against another.
The most important relationship you have is your relationship with yourself. How well you get along with yourself is mirrored by how you get along with others.
The most important job you have is taking care of yourself. When you come from a place of strength and peace, others respond to it. All feelings are informational, letting you know when you are abandoning yourself with your self-judgments and various addictions, and when others are being uncaring toward you and disconnected from you.A self-validating reduction is kind of self-fulfilling prophecy of which the result is a dramatic reduction in a person, group, or natural being.The banker's validation of the plan may be an essential factor in its value."Ah, well, I will look after this validation myself," said the minister sharply.This term was coined by Anthony Weston and used in his book Back to Earth in 1994.A self-validating reduction is a self-fulfilling prophecy in which one of the main effects of the "prophecy" is to reduce someone or something in the world. If you make a big funny one you will remember it and most likely will be more aware next time. Loving parents offer consistent validation to their children, validating their feelings, their perceptions, their gifts and talents, their particular form of intelligence, their interests, their kindness, caring and intuition.You are very fortunate if you received this kind of validation from your parents.If your parents also validated their own feelings, perceptions and so on, then you are extremely fortunate, as you likely learned to do this for yourself from their role modeling.