Are you thinking, "But I know a woman who has slept with a guy early on, and she's now married to him!"Yes, it is possible to have sex with a guy too soon and have it turn into a lasting relationship.
The overwhelming amount of sexual information online and in the media places a lot of pressure on men and women to perform.These are two important skills everyone needs for a committed relationship.Many women to feel disconnected in their sexual and emotional intimate relationships with men due to a discomfort in learning how to ask for what they need.Love and trust had to be built before couples would consummate their relationship. We get into any relationship at the slightest attraction and step away the minute we get bored, in a rush to find greener pastures.We can feel nostalgic for the romance and courtship of bygone days but know well that those times are behind us. A world where instant gratification is the new norm, and experimenting with sex with no strings attached is accepted as part of the dating game. Fading decorum around courting, and online dating apps among other things, are being blamed.For many women dating during this period of time was about looking for a husband.Today, while some women will date to marry, many are delaying marriage until later in life.I really want a good, steady relationship with him. Am I supposed to play a little hard to get after the fact?? I'm worried, cause I don't know what he's thinking, and I'm a little afraid to ask.Dear Christine, The last time you were single was in the 80's.Maybe you really like this guy and you want to explore a relationship with him. You can say something like “Hey Jake, I want to chat with you about something that’s a bit vulnerable for me to share. ” If it’s true, start off with saying what you enjoyed about it. (Assuming that everything was consensual, having sex was a mutual choice by two adults.Or perhaps you’ve never had sex too soon and you just got caught up in the moment. There is nothing wrong or bad about it.) This next one is important. Say something like “Thank you so much for listening to me.