Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone.So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. They send first messages endlessly with no results and constantly tell me how useless it is. I’ve heard countless horror stories and can’t blame women for being cautious.Therefore, I have made it my mission over the last year to really decipher the online dating code. Your only goal in the first message is to assure her that you’re a normal guy.I was going to write about something else today -- I have a couple of big-concept posts I've been meaning to write up and get around to -- but, heck, the last post I put up was a big-concept post so I figured let's have a quick breather from that and get something a little lighter up first. I've been all too guilty of this myself -- sending super-long messages.This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.Seriously, your pictures are all a girl has to go on to determine whether or not you are an axe murderer/pedophile/stalker.Care about taking high quality shots and coming off as a put-together gentleman.
Tone down the Netspeak Netspeak is the main culprit when it comes to unsuccessful first mails.
After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website.
Struggling to think of the right thing to say to an attractive match?
You accomplish this by creating a fun, enjoyable atmosphere that gets her excited to reply.
To start, there’s one thing you should know that will greatly affect your response rates… I did a huge post about it and nearly all of the profiles I critique suffer from crappy photos. The guys don’t smile, are unkempt, and look like the dating site murderer (pictured above).